On Thursday I went to the party of one of my best friends (Hannah). It was a birthday and say-goodbye party, because she'll leave us next Saturday for a year. She's going to Sweden on a Bible school. That's pretty cool, but it's hard to say goodbye to someone special like Hannah.
Hannah and I are friends since we first met and this was 10 years ago! Oh, I can't believe it. 10 years!
We went to school together, so we saw each other nearly everyday, but now school is over and Hannah's going to Sweden and I don't know what happens with our friendship. I'm wondering what happens with all my friends from school. I haven't seen them much since school ended in June and it was already strange to meet them at the party. It was strange, because of some of my friends I didn't hear anything the last months. That's sad, because I wrote them e-mails but they didn't respond.
And then they talked about something at the party which made me think about my friends a lot. The thing is, that all my friends have Facebook, except me. I don't have Facebook and I don't want to have Facebook, because I think it's not the right way to keep in touch with your friends. It's not really personal and many people aren't like in real life on Facebook.
Years ago I didn't even wanted to write e-mails, because letters are more personal, but then I realised that sometimes it is easier to write e-mails (and less expensive) and I learned how to find good friends on the internet. I started writing e-mails and I write a lot of e-mails and also long and personal ones. Sometimes I don't write back that fast, but I always answer my e-mails.
People started writing e-mails because they were too lazy to write letters and now people seems to use Facebook, because they are too lazy to write e-mails! What's going on?
The thing is, that my friends who have Facebook have no problem to keep in touch with each other, but it seems to be to complicated and time consuming to write me an e-mail to say Hi and tell me how they are doing.
That's sad. I don't want to lose my friends. I love my friends, but what kind of friends are they?
I'm a bit disappointed, because it feels like they don't even try to keep in contact with me.
My best friend Ines and I always wrote e-mails and she knows nearly everything about me, but since school is over I got only three or four short e-mails from her. She told me that she is too busy to write e-mails. But at the party she talked about things she did on Facebook. I don't understand it anymore. She has time for Facebook, but writing an e-mail is impossible?
I really don't know what to think about my friends. And I'm sorry for this post, it's just what's going on in my mind at the moment.
Do you have Facebook? How do you keep in touch with friends?
I'll post pictures of the party hopefully tomorrow.
I've got facebook, but I mainly use it to keep in contact with people who don't read my blog. Facebook also has an e-mailing system on it, so I've kinda been using that more and more now just because it's easier. However, I've been getting more into using skype now too. I really like using that to stay in touch with all my friends in college.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a Facebook. My parents don't want me to, because of that very reason (and a few others). My friends have Facebook, and Twitter, and Tumblr, and everything there is to have on the internet. But you know what's sad? If they get a blog, they never have time for it. So they just forget about it. I don't have many friends (aside from the many I have on Blogger), because I don't go to school, and at the moment I don't go to church. My friends from my old church are really great friends, and they haven't lost touch with me yet. I hope it gets better for you.
ReplyDelete~Autumn
I have a Facebook account. I got it last fall because I thought it would be a great way to reconnect with old friends and keep in better touch with current ones, and it is for me. I have one friend who is extremely busy and has a lot on his plate. We were emailing each other every once in a while, but when I joined FB we just started leaving wall posts and sending private messages. I have another friend who I have been writing for 6 years now, we are friends on FB and still find time to write each other. But the thing is that we actually have the time. It's lame but the only way to keep in touch with my oldest brother is thru FB, but as long as we're in touch it doesn't matter to me. Before I joined I vowed I wouldn't but I'm glad I changed my mind about it. :)
ReplyDeleteI don't have Facebook. Don't feel bad, Antonia! Me and you have kept in touch well by e-mail. :) I have a big enough problem just trying to manage my time on the blogs, so if I added Facebook into the mix, my whole life would be spent on the internet, and I don't want that!
ReplyDeleteBesides, I like writing letters and e-mail. :)
Omigoodness, Antonia, you don't know how much this applies to me! It fits me and my friends exactly. I don't have FB, either, but nearly all of my close friends do. They're ALWAYS on it too. It really drives me crazy cause my friends seem to have the same problem as yours--they certainly have enough time to spend hours on FB, but to drop even one tiny email to me to say how they're doing? Not usually. My best friend, Molly, just got FB and I'm worried she's going to forget about her blog now. Sigh. So you're definitely not alone!
ReplyDeleteThey do email from time to time and some of us do Buzz on Gmail. But I still feel forgotten.
Thank you for all your lovely comments! :)
ReplyDeleteIt's so good to hear other people's opinions! You encourage me a lot. Thank you!
I started homeschooling four years ago, and it has been HARD keeping in touch with my friends what with their hectic schedule. Sometimes, we don't even talk at all. However, when we do, which is through Yahoo! Messenger or texting or luckily on the phone, we talk a lot and realize that even if we spoke to each other rarely we're still friends.
ReplyDeleteYou could use the phone or Skype. :) You can tell your friends how you feel. They'll understand. :D